Reading List · Personal Growth & Relationships
Relationship & Self-Growth Books I Recommend
These are the books I most often recommend to couples and individuals who want to become better partners, grow emotionally, and build deeper connection. Every book on this list offers practical, usable tools — not fluff.
Attached
by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller
A foundational book on attachment styles — anxious, avoidant, and secure — and how they shape the way you connect, communicate, and experience intimacy. If you want to understand your patterns (and your partner’s), start here.
View on AmazonThe Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
by Dr. John Gottman
Gottman’s research-based guide to understanding conflict, repair, emotional bids, and the daily actions that keep couples connected. Great for practical tools and structured exercises couples can use immediately.
View on AmazonNonviolent Communication
by Marshall Rosenberg
A powerful framework for expressing your needs clearly while also staying connected and compassionate. This is the book for anyone who struggles with reactive communication or emotional shutdown.
View on AmazonHold Me Tight
by Dr. Sue Johnson
One of the best books on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). It helps couples understand the deeper emotional patterns underneath conflict and disconnection. Beautifully written and extremely relatable.
View on AmazonAttached to God (Optional spiritual book)
by Krispin Mayfield
If you or your partner comes from a faith background, this is an excellent bridge between attachment theory and spiritual connection. Optional, but deeply meaningful for some.
View on AmazonThe Body Keeps the Score
by Bessel van der Kolk
A deep dive into trauma, nervous system regulation, and healing. Essential reading for anyone who wants to understand the emotional roots of conflict, shutdown, or insecurity.
View on AmazonThe Mountain Is You
by Brianna Wiest
A fantastic book on self-sabotage, emotional maturity, and the internal blocks that prevent people from showing up fully in relationships. Great for personal growth and confidence.
View on AmazonThe Gifts of Imperfection
by Brené Brown
A powerful look at shame, vulnerability, courage, and wholehearted living. Ideal for anyone struggling with self-worth, defensiveness, or emotional walls.
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