Fall Back in Love: the complete 90 day program
For the couple who does not just want the fighting to stop. You want to feel chosen again. Known again. You want the marriage you thought you were building, and you have stopped believing that another round of talking about it will get you there.
Not back to the honeymoon. Better than it, because this version is built on purpose by two people who know exactly what the other one needs.
No pressure and no pitch. Every session is online, from your own couch.
Ninety days is for the couple who wants the whole thing back
Not a patch and not a truce. None of this means your marriage is over. It means you are done settling for the version of it you have been living in.
If you want to see the foundation this whole program is built on, the guide on healing resentments is free and complete.
Already sure? Cut to the chase and book the call Fifteen free minutes. I will tell you straight whether 90 days is the right commitment.
Five rounds of couples therapy did not save my marriage. Ninety days of different work did.
My wife and I have been together for 36 years. In 2019 we were strangers sharing a house, and I had done the responsible thing five separate times. What I had after all of it was a very good understanding of our problems and no idea how to be close to her.
What changed it was a stretch of months where I worked on it every single week, with people who would not let me off the hook, and where I stopped trying to be a better version of who I already was. What we have now is not a fairy tale. It is deep, it is real, and it is a kind of connection I did not know was available after three decades. This is the program that teaches what I actually did.
For the husbands: about a third of the men who start this arrive because their wife asked them to, and most of them tell me somewhere in month two that it turned out to be for them as much as for her. You are not being fixed. There is a specific framework here for men, about emotional safety and about showing up fully, and it is not a rebrand of the material aimed at women.
Three months, three phases, twelve sessions
One 90 minute session every week, online by video, from your own couch. Each month has a clear job and builds on the one before it. You do not get to phase three by skipping phase one, which is exactly why most couples never get there on their own.
Heal the resentments
Resentments do not disappear when you ignore them. They go underground and start running everything. Month one brings them into the light, names where each one came from, and clears them using the REUNITE method, both partners, in turn. This is the work most couples have never done. You cannot build anything new on a cracked foundation, and this month gets the rock out of the shoe.
Build a shared vision
Most couples have never had this conversation. They have been surviving: managing conflict, managing logistics, managing the gap between them. Month two asks what you actually want this marriage to be. Not what you are settling for, what you would build if you designed it together from scratch. Alignment at that level changes how you make every decision afterwards.
Rebuild intimacy
Emotional safety, physical closeness, and how to stay curious instead of defensive when it gets hard. How to repair quickly when you get it wrong, because you will. Month three is where everything you have learned stops being something you practice and becomes how you are together. This is the month couples tell me they feel closer than they did on their wedding day.
Most couples start to really feel the difference in six to eight hours of work, which lands in the first month. The other two months are what makes it permanent. The Reunite Tool is a free sample of the method month one runs on.
Everything inside the 90 day program
Twelve weeks, and me between all of them
- Ninety minutes of coaching every week, taken as two shorter sessions or one double length session, whichever suits your week
- Weeks 1 to 4, heal the resentments and clear the foundation
- Weeks 5 to 8, build a shared vision for your marriage
- Weeks 9 to 12, rebuild intimacy, closeness and the tools for life
- Unlimited direct access to Stephen between every session
- Stephen’s men’s work framework, built for the husband, not adapted for him
- A 30 day post program check in after the twelve weeks end
- Online by video, from your own couch
Three workbooks, yours to keep: Healing Resentments, From Roommates to Teammates, and From Invisible to Valued.
Fall Back in Love
The complete programEighteen hours of guided work across ninety days, plus unlimited access in between. This is the whole method, in order, with nothing left out and nothing rushed.
- The Reset credits in full, so continuing costs $3,500
- The Jumpstart credits in full
- Stop the Bleeding credits toward it as well
The credit rule runs forward and it is the whole amount. Whatever you have already spent with me on a smaller program comes off this one, with no expiry and no fine print. Nobody pays twice for the same work.
“We had been in couples therapy for two years with no real progress. Three months with Stephen was different because he didn’t just help us talk about our problems, he helped us understand what was actually underneath them. Our marriage is genuinely better now than it ever was, including before kids.”
Client couple, Los AngelesThis is the biggest one. It is not the right first step for everybody.
Three of the four programs on this site are smaller than this one, and every dollar of them credits forward, so there is no penalty for starting somewhere else and arriving here later.
- If it is loud at home right now, start with Stop the Bleeding. Ninety days of careful work needs calm you do not have this week.
- If your partner is not ready to commit to a season, The Jumpstart is one afternoon at $500 and answers the question for them.
- If you want depth without three months, The Reset is two half days for $1,000 and credits in full against this.
- If what you need is a therapist, I will say so on the free call rather than take your money.
Questions people ask before enrolling
Three thousand dollars is a lot of money. Is it worth it?
It is a lot of money and I am not going to tell you otherwise. Here is the honest arithmetic. A year of weekly couples therapy runs roughly $7,800 to $15,600. A divorce runs $15,000 to $50,000 in legal fees before anybody has divided a house. This is eighteen hours of guided work plus unlimited access to me for three months, at $4,500, or $1,500 a month if that is easier to carry.
The number that actually matters is not on that list though. It is the cost of another five years living the way things are now, and what it means to your kids to grow up watching a marriage that works. If the money is genuinely the obstacle, start with The Jumpstart at $500 or The Reset at $1,000. Both credit in full toward this, so you lose nothing by taking the smaller step first.
We have already done couples therapy. How is this different?
Most therapy I hear about spends its time on where a pattern came from. That work is real and for some people it is exactly right. This is forward facing: tools, homework, accountability, and a specific order of operations. Clear the resentments first, because nothing else holds while they are still there. Then build the vision. Then rebuild intimacy. Couples who have already done therapy often move faster here, because they arrive with the understanding and are finally being asked to do something with it.
What does unlimited access actually mean?
Voice message or text between sessions, as often as you need, for the whole twelve weeks. The hard moments do not schedule themselves for Tuesday afternoons. When something blows up on a Saturday you write to me instead of sitting on it for five days and arriving at the next session with a week of damage to undo. In practice this is the feature couples say made the biggest difference.
My partner is not as committed as I am. Should we still start?
Almost nobody starts equally committed. The program is built for both of you, including the one who has pulled back, and that partner is explicitly not the patient. What they get from the first month is less pressure, not more, and less criticism than they have felt in years. If they genuinely will not join, start with a smaller program and let them see something change before you ask for three months of their calendar.
What happens after the twelve weeks end?
You have a 30 day check in session built into the price, held a month after the program finishes, to see how things have settled and deal with anything that has come back. Beyond that, most couples do not need anything ongoing, which is the point. If you complete the program and do not feel a meaningful shift, I will keep working with you at no additional cost until you do.
Can we do the whole thing online?
Yes, because online is the only way I run them. Twelve weekly sessions is far easier to protect when nobody has to cross a city for it, and people are more honest in their own living room. I work with couples anywhere from Santa Monica.
The first step is a conversation, not a commitment
Fifteen minutes. You tell me what is actually happening, I tell you honestly whether the 90 day program is the right fit or whether something smaller would serve you better right now.
Free, 15 minutes, no commitment. Online, from your own couch. Or call (424) 264-2200.