The Reset: two weeks to break the cycle for good
For the couple who is not in crisis and not okay either. You are civil, you are exhausted, and the same conversation has been going in the same circle for long enough that you have started wondering whether this is just how it is now. It is not.
Two intensive half days gives you the depth of real breakthrough work. The two weeks between them is where it stops being a good afternoon and starts being a change.
No pressure and no pitch. Every session is online, from your own couch.
The Reset is for couples who are stuck, not bleeding
Nothing is on fire. That is exactly the problem, because nothing forces the issue either. None of this means your marriage is over. Every bit of it means it is asking for attention.
If most of those are true, there is a backlog underneath them. The free guide on healing resentments explains what it is and how couples clear it.
Already sure? Cut to the chase and book the call Fifteen free minutes. I will tell you straight whether The Reset is the right one.
The gap is not filler. It is the part that made it stick for us.
My wife and I have been together for 36 years, and in 2019 we had already been through five rounds of couples therapy. We were good at the sessions. We were terrible at the week after. Whatever we opened up on a Tuesday quietly closed again by Friday because nothing was asked of us in between.
What changed things was doing a large piece of work, then living in it for a while with something specific to practice, then coming back and going further. That is the shape of The Reset. Day one surfaces and clears. The fortnight is where you find out what is real. Day two goes after what is still standing.
To the husbands reading this over a shoulder: the two weeks in the middle are not homework in the school sense. They are short, concrete, and mostly about doing one thing differently rather than talking about feelings for an hour a night. Men usually find the gap the easiest part to say yes to, and then the most useful.
Two half days, two weeks apart, one real shift
Each half day is two 90 minute blocks with a 15 minute break, all online, as part of relationship coaching in Santa Monica and across Los Angeles. Every block has a job.
Surface it, name it, begin clearing it
Both partners take turns working the REUNITE method to bring resentments into the open. Not to win, not to assign blame, to be heard. We map what has been accumulating between you, name the pattern that keeps repeating, and start clearing the backlog instead of managing it. You leave with a written Repair Roadmap and the daily practices for the gap.
Live in it, with me on email
Short daily practices, specific homework, and direct email access to me the whole time. This is where you find out which shifts hold on a bad Wednesday and which ones only worked while I was in the room. That information is what makes day two worth having.
Go deeper, then build the plan
We process what surfaced in the gap, clear what is still there, and get underneath the surface conflict to what is actually driving it. Then we build the shared vision and the tools that keep this alive after the program ends, and you leave with your second Repair Roadmap.
Six hours of guided work across two weeks. Most couples start to really feel the difference in six to eight hours, which is why this format is where most of them start. The free conflict tool is a taste of what the gap practices feel like.
Everything that comes with The Reset
Two half days and everything around them
- Two half day sessions, each two 90 minute blocks with a break
- The REUNITE resentment mapping process, both partners
- The real fight underneath the surface fight
- A written Repair Roadmap after each half day
- Tools and homework to use in the two weeks between
- Two weeks of direct email access to Stephen
- Healing Resentments Workbook, pre session prep
- From Roommates to Teammates Workbook
- Online by video, from your own couch
The workbooks are yours to keep. See what is in the Healing Resentments Workbook.
The Reset
Three months of weekly sessionsSix hours of guided work with a fortnight of practice built into the middle covers the ground a quarter of weekly appointments covers, in two weeks instead of thirteen.
- Credits in full toward Fall Back in Love
- Continuing costs $3,500, not $4,500
- A Jumpstart already paid for credits too
The credit rule runs one direction only, forward, and it is the whole amount. Whatever you have already spent on a smaller program comes off the price of a larger one. Nobody pays twice for the same work.
“I didn’t think my husband would agree to two weeks of anything. But two half days with space in between, that he could say yes to. By the end of the first session he was the one who wanted to keep going.”
Client, Los AngelesMost couples start here. Not all of them should.
The Reset is the default for a reason, but it is the wrong shape for two kinds of couple, and I would rather say so now than on day one.
- If it is loud at home this week and you cannot wait two weeks for anything, go to Stop the Bleeding instead. Six sessions in fourteen days, built for active pain.
- If your partner is not there yet and needs to see what a session even is, start with The Jumpstart for $500. It credits in full against this.
- If you already know you want the whole rebuild, go straight to Fall Back in Love. Starting there saves you a month.
- If what you need is a therapist, I will tell you that on the free call rather than take your money.
Questions people ask before booking The Reset
Why two weeks apart? Why not do both days back to back?
Because back to back would be easier to sell and worse for you. What you uncover on day one needs somewhere to go. If we run day two the next morning, you are still running on the momentum of the room, and I have no idea which of those shifts are real and which ones only work while I am sitting there.
Two weeks is long enough for ordinary life to test it and short enough that nothing closes back up. You come to day two with actual evidence, and we spend that half day on what is genuinely still stuck instead of guessing.
What do we actually do in the two weeks?
Short daily practices, usually ten or fifteen minutes, plus the specific commitments in your Repair Roadmap. You will have the Healing Resentments Workbook and From Roommates to Teammates, and you will have direct email access to me the whole time. When something comes up mid fortnight, you write to me rather than sitting on it until day two.
Is this a couples retreat?
No. It is a two day intensive spread over two weeks, not a residential retreat and not a group bootcamp. Nobody stays anywhere overnight and there are no other couples in the room. Every one of these runs over video, which works better than an office and is usually more honest, because you are at home.
What if we need more than two half days?
Then you will know it by day two, and so will I, and we will talk about it plainly. Your full $1,000 credits toward Fall Back in Love, so continuing costs $3,500 rather than $4,500. There is no pressure in either direction. Plenty of couples finish The Reset, use what they have, and come back a year later or not at all.
How is this different from couples therapy?
A therapist is licensed to treat mental health conditions and often spends real time on where a pattern came from. That work matters. Coaching works forward, on the relationship itself, with tools, homework and accountability, and in a format built for momentum rather than maintenance. I am a coach, and if what you need is a therapist I will say so.
Can we do The Reset if only one of us is really committed?
Usually yes. Very few couples arrive equally ready. What the format needs is both bodies in the room and a willingness to be honest for three hours at a time. The reluctant partner is not the patient here, and does not get talked about in the third person. That alone changes how the day goes.
This could feel completely different
Start with fifteen minutes on the phone. You tell me what is happening, I tell you honestly whether two half days is the right size for it.
Free, 15 minutes, no commitment. Online, from your own couch. Or call (424) 264-2200.